Saturday, November 30, 2013

Most Embarrassing Moments.

My most embarassing moment makes me laugh so hard when i remember it now.l went to the market o..na im wan craze man way dey awaz dance to music begin chase me around until some peeps came to my rescue. l had to stop shopping and cried throughout that day. So i decided to ask friends about theirs and here's what l got. Enjoy.

I remember wearing this six inch heels to church, it was my first time wearing shoes that high and still instead of me to respect myself and walk gently I was making yanga in front of the SUG lodge in my school. And that was how I fell yakata...worse is I couldn't get up cos my legs hurt badly..just wished the ground could swallow me - Favourmoyse

My own be say ...I da church o and i'm usually very emotional during worship time..with my eyes closed, na so I begin draw water for eyes brubru as I worshipped. Oya na worship has ended and it was time to open eyes...na so wahala start.The hair bonding glue way I take fix my fake lashes don cement my eyes I no fit come open am. worse is the glue has entered my eyes and hurts terribly. come see cinema.. proper cry started o..couldn't walk to the bathroom cos how I wan take see road,couldn't beckon to anyone that will be another crisis...na so I bend down begin da use force remove the lashes one by one..chai- Candy

My friend confidently came to me asking that she's going on a date n the guy already told her they were going to have waffles n ice cream. she wanted to know if she was meant to eat the waffles with her hands or cutlery. Not knowing at that time and have never seen waffles I told her to use fork and knife and the poor gal did. When she came back she jumped on me and pinched the hell out of me. The guy still call her waffles till date.- Victoria

In class I messed during lectures. Everybody was getting up to leave the place and when I wanted to leave too,one guy said, abeg siddon dere oo.No carry that smell come this side.Jeeeeeeezzz.I nearly perme.- Stanley.

So there was this time shit catch me for lab for sch after I chop one kind beans for buka.Mehn, when I was running to offload ,it was so obvious to everybody I was under fire. There was this time I had to pause while running coz e be don almost happen-Jeff

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Friday, November 29, 2013

Adrift and at peace

My aunt husband has been living  in the states for over 25yrs and for once he never cared about the child she bore him. He is married now with three kids and my aunt is still hoping and praying that he would come back to his senses and say sorry. Of course she is willing to forgive him.

Someone asked me the kind of man I want to marry to which I replied "the one I won't be willing to divorce" cos if I were my aunt I would have served that dude the divorce papers 20yrs ago.

Its human to become too attached to people or things and it can be very difficult to let go of these attachments even when we know they are of no good. We all want to be happy and avoid hurts yet we consistently pin ourselves in situations that set us for pain.We pin our happiness to people, things and circumstances. We stress about the possibility of loosing them. We attach to feelings as if they define us and ironically not just positive ones.

l strongly believe that holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength.However,i've come to realize that it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it. Its no simple undertaking to let go of an attachment, not a one -time decision instead its a day to day,moment -to- moment decision. The best approach is to start simple and work your way through. Here are baby steps to letting go

1. Accept the moment; live free of regrets.
2.  Believe now is enough; tomorrow may not look thesame as today, no matter how much you try to control it.
3. Define yourself in fluid terms ; its simple.Define yourself in terms that evolve change.
4. Justify less; a dude once told me his life would suck without me#shrugs#. These kind of thoughts reinforce beliefs that are not fact, even if they feel like it.
Pain is unavoidable but you can make the best out of every situation. Learn to let go. Its hurts carrying baggages.

Sometimes you stay adrift to gain peace, joy and happiness.

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Saturday, November 23, 2013

Verbal Diarrhoea

Statuary warning ;This SHOULD be taken as an expert opinion,please DO NOT seek the advice of your health care professional.I am an expert in this field and my word is final, gospel even.Again, do not seek ths advice of your health care professional.#yay!!!!#

Synonym; squealer,blabber mouth,gasbag,energy vampire.

We all know someone who talks too much and sometimes you are like 'damn,isn't there an off button?' so we revert to monologues thinking they will get the message and just shut it. Everyone likes to be heard.There's nothing wrong with wanting people to know your opinions or feelings. However, expressing yourself could be a glitch in your character when its excessive and begins to annoy people around you or worse brings embarrassment.

It's one thing to be sociable and chatty; it's another thing to monopolize conversations over and over. When it comes to expressing yourself how much is too much?
Here are possible indicators that you are way out of line.

1.Assess your usual conversations; ask questions like who truthfully did the majority of the talking?,how often did I interrupt my friend?,did we talk about me more or my friend?

2. Pay attention to the body language of others; do people roll their eyes,tap their foot impatiently, nod their head,throw out irrelevant ''yeahs" and "uh-huhs" or even ignore you completely when you talk?

3. Do you find yourself often giving away bits of information you don't mean to?or maybe you let slip hurtful or rude opinions about other people. Note how often this happens in everyday conversations. If found guilty then its time to

fix the problem.

1. make a conscious effort to listen more and talk less.

2.Don't fill all the dead air.Pauses in conversations are another person's thinking time,some people like to think and compose their answers carefully. Don't feel you need to jump in, doing so swallows them up and throws them off their answers.

3. Avoid elaborating on a topic. learn to be precise.

4. Remember that a good conversation is a back and forth rally. If someone asks you a question about your holiday after giving a precise reply,you could in turn ask if they are planning a trip.

5. Consider the cause and effect.

6 . learn to stop interrupting people.

Don't be afraid to apologize if someone informs you either openly or subtly that you are talking too much. lndeed, it's a great chance to practice breaking the habit by shutting up there and then and listening instead.

Thursday, November 21, 2013

How to make Pancakes

I made these pancakes this morning for my neighbour's kid as lunch.  Nice treat huh? Here are simple steps to make yours.

lngredients.

1 full cup flour
3 eggs
milk
onion
sugar
pinch of salt
pepper
water
vegetable oil

Procedure

* sieve flour into a bowl, add a pinch of salt.
* mix two spoons of milk and sugar in a glass of water before adding to flour.
*Add thinly chopped onions and pepper and stir with a spoon (or wooden spoon) until there is a smooth free flowing paste.
*Add the beaten eggs and stir again until well mixed.
*scoop and pour gently into a hot frying pan that has few drops of the vegetable oil in it.( tilt the pan to different directions, so! that the little oil wets the whole bottom of the pan).
*cook till golden brown.

P.S
you can add vanilla or any other flavor, take note of the consistency of the batter ....if too thick add a little water but not too much. scoop little mixture into the pan to make sure its well cooked.

Serve with pineapple juice#tongue out#

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Wednesday, November 20, 2013

Sweet Secret

Keeping secret is a lonely business. That's why we all search for someone to confide in. An ally who will understand, an advisor we can trust, a friend who will never judge. Of course, not everyone you tell your secrets to will be happy about it.

Juicy pieces of private info are everywhere and it seems you are always stumbling on them accidentally even when you don't mean to. Some are salacious, some are harmless, but many are more complicated and become a burden. So how do you keep a sweet secret?

1. Keep Quiet.
The first rule of keeping a secret is Don't tell. When a friend confides in you ,no matter how tempting it may be do not break your promise of silence.

2. Let them tell.
You can't always keep a secret and sometimes you shoudn't. If someone tells you a secret that is harmful to another person then its time to spill.But before you spill tell your friend about it and why you feel its necessary.

3. If you must tell ask first.
If you are privy to information someone ought to know don't automatically blab. Some people don't like to hear the truth especially if it's going to hurt.

4.Disclose,don't attack.
When you have to share a disturbing secret, frame your disclosure as a personal observation.

5.Understand privacy versus secrecy.
Other People's private business is not your story to tell- Belleghem.But telling your version of an event, what you saw,felt is your business.

6. Consider the impact.
If withholding your secret will make a someone make a bad decision then it's time to spill.

7. Shut your ears.
Sometimes its better to avoid the pressure of taking on someone else's secret.

Yes we all need help hiding the darkest truths of our lives because as soon as you have told one secret another is likely to appear.

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Monday, November 18, 2013

The Aluu Crowd in Us

ln the face of evil, to sit silent is an even greater evil. Complacency is ever the enabler of darkest deeds ‘―Robert Fanney .
I read a story of remarkable courage on the BBC website the other day. It was the story of
Keisha Thomas, a black teenage girl, who saved the life of a white man from a mob that was trying to lynch him on the assumption that he was a KKK member. For those of you who do not know, the Ku Klux
Klan members are white folks who believe that all blacks are inferior to them and have been responsible for the torture and
murder of many blacks. For Keisha, a black girl, to have saved this man, who most people think deserved whatever he got, is
truly an act of courage and forgiveness. As I thought about Keisha Thomas, I wondered why no one made any effort to save those unfortunate four undergraduates
we now refer to as ‘Aluu4′. It’s been over a year since their barbaric death. I remember how shocked we were (and still are) by
their gruesome death, but perhaps what shocked us even more was the indifference of the crowd that looked on while they suffered.
I haven’t watched the video and do not intend to, but from all the stories I have read, the crowd that watched the gruesome killing were far more in number than the
actual persons who committed the act. I don’t think everyone in that crowd liked what they saw. I believe some of them flinched when they heard the frantic
pleadings and groans of pain from those poor young men. I believe some of them would have loved to end the horrible drama playing out in front of them. After all some
of them had children as old as those four boys, or brothers or friends. Yet they did nothing.
Why were they so helpless? Why did mothers, fathers and other young people just look on? Well, based on some of the eyewitness accounts I have read, the ‘good’
people in the crowd were made helpless by fear. They feared they would be seen as accomplices if they dared to help, and thus
suffer the same fate. Secondly they feared they were not strong enough to challenge the men carrying out the torture. And guess what friends? The fear of
consequences and inadequacy, which paralyzed the Aluu crowd, is in all of us. It is because of these fears that many of us find it difficult to confront bad situations no matter how sad and angry we may feel about them. But can I just say that nothing great has ever been accomplished without fear? It
was Nelson Mandela who said' "courage is not the absence of fear, but the triumph over.it. The brave man is not he who does not feel
afraid, but he who conquers that fear. ”
I have no doubt he was speaking from experience. He knew too well the consequences that came with confronting the Apartheid government of South Africa, he also knew how limited he was in
confronting injustice, after all he was not a parliamentarian or a lawyer. But somehow he found strength to confront injustice
despite his well-founded fears. Today South Africans are so much better for it because the likes of Nelson Mandela refused to let
their fears hold them back.
Another fear which often cripples people is the fear of doing good deeds alone. It is encouraging when people support us and
appreciate us for sacrificing our time, resources and even life for a good cause. But oftentimes that is not the case. The very people we expect to understand are usually
the ones who discourage us and belittle us and our dreams. All great heroes and heroines in our history books experienced that. But what made them famous is their refusal to let others hold them back. The fear of waiting is the last fear we will look at. Most people hate waiting, especially
Nigerians. One of the reasons why we go late to occasions is because we don’t like to wait. I know because I am guilty! But I have come to realise that nothing good ever comes easy or fast. Most victories we know of did not happen overnight. The Civil Rights campaign led by Martin Luther King
Jnr did not happen in a day neither did the end of Apartheid occur in a year. As Nigerians we have dreams for our country. It is sad that fifty three years after
independence and with all the great resources we have, we are still behind many countries. Talking about our.problems will not solve it; the newspapers
have been doing that for ages. Neither will prayers alone. So why are we not doing enough? Why do we say things like “it
won’t work? It has never been done
before?” Why do we give up so easily?
I believe it is because we let our fears hold
us back. For a religious nation like ours,
isn’t it ironic that many of us fail to depend
on God to help us confront bad situations?
Or do we only call upon God and
demonstrate faith in Him when it comes to
personal blessings?
The Bible and Holy Quran are full of stories
of ordinary men and women who did
extraordinary things for their communities
because they trusted in God. These people
replaced their fears with faith in God. I
think of the story of David who was an
ordinary shepherd who had to face Goliath
the giant. He was just a youth who was not
even a soldier, whereas Goliath had been
fighting for ages. No one believed in him,
not even his brothers. What about his
weapon of choice? It was just an ordinary
sling or catapult whereas his opponent had
a spear that was longer than David! Despite his inadequacies, and other fears, David
defeated Goliath because he trusted in God.
Perhaps you are thinking this is irrelevant
to Nigeria or Africa. This next example
shows that with courage and persistence,
we can do what has never been done before.
In Botswana, four sisters aged between 68 years to 80 years, finally won the rights to inherit their deceased father’s property
after a five-year long court battle. In a conservative and patriarchal society where women rights are unknown, according to the BBC correspondent, these sisters did
something that “no-one thought was possible – they took on tradition and won.”
What made these women hold on regardless of the fears they faced? One of them, Ms Mmusi said it was “resilience and courage.” That, my dear friends is what is needed to
confront and succeed in any battle whether it is personal or for a greater good. You will face all manner of fears, but if you will
only hold on with resilience and courage and a trust in God, you will triumph over your fears and see your dreams achieved.
Some months ago I read about the tragic accident that occurred on Lagos-Benin expressway involving a fuel tanker and a
mass transit bus. Over fifty people were burnt to death: men, women and children. Like everyone I was saddened but I decided
it was time to do something about the.frequency of such accidents. But I was afraid. I didn’t feel adequate or qualified to
do the job. Here I was, a stay-at home mum, living in a foreign country and not related to any politician. I certainly didn’t
feel ‘important’ enough. What could I possibly do? How effective would my so-called online campaign be? Even my family
members discouraged me telling me not to waste my time, that no body would listen. But because I trusted God, I persisted, even
when my emails to many influential people were never acknowledged. I persisted even
when the DG of the Federal road Safety Corps didn’t reply. I was tempted to give up when people would say “didn’t we tell
you?” Finally the DG of the FRSC has started replying my emails and seems keen to listen
to suggestions. In due time, our roads will become safer.
I do not write this story to boast. Far fromit! But to encourage all of us that we can make a difference no matter how ordinary
and powerless we are. You don’t have to be old enough, rich enough, smart enough or
‘connected’ enough. Don’t let your fears hold you back from doing the right thing. If you are really determined and persistent
enough, with the help of God, you can achieve extraordinary feats.
I believe each of us was born into this generation and country for a reason. Our purpose in life should not only be to make money and live comfortable lives. We should aim to be agents of change and leave our footprints in the sands of time.To do that , each of us will have to make a choice: will you rather be like the fearful Aluu crowd or will you be like Keisha
Thomas, the Botswana sisters and others who refused to let their fears hold them back?‘Courage is being scared to death… and
saddling up anyway .’ – John Wayne .

_______________________________________________________________________________
Theresa Omoronyia is a trained business
analyst and has degrees in Management
Science and Computer Science. She lives in
Glasgow, UK with her husband and son.
Theresa enjoys being with people and her
passion is to help those who are hurting.
Please visit her blog for inspiration and
motivation at http://
thesisterskeeper.blogspot.co.uk

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Rush Hour

We begin our lives with a few obligations, we pledge allegiance to the flag, we swear to return the  library books, but as we get older, we make vows, we make promises, we get burdened by commitment - to tell the truth and nothing but to love and cherish till death do us part. So we just keep running up the tab until we owe everything to everybody and suddenly think.

Frustration is not the key to any door. As Barbara Johnson once wrote,
“Patience is the ability to idle your
motor when you feel like stripping your
gears.” Patience is connected to so
much of our success. Without it, many
of our goals suffer.
Patience is a simple concept, but isn’t
an easy character trait to master!
Patience involves other character traits like empathy,
impulse control and respect. It also takes time, practice and
experience.

According to economists and writers, a good education can impart
skills like patience, manners, discipline and perseverance.
A Chinese proverb says it well, “One moment of patience may ward off
great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.”
Often the best teachers are our mistakes. When we step back, we
sometimes see that our mistakes were made in haste. As Dr. Robyn
Silverman once wrote, “Patience can prevent careless mistakes. You
may be the fastest at reaping what you sow but if, in your hastiness
you forget to plant the seed, you’ll be the first one with a handful of
dirt.” If you look back on the mistakes you or others you know have
made, how do you think patience could have saved them from the
negative results they have achieved?
Here are some ways to help you gain some patience and stay
calm when life gets a little hectic:
1. Take time to take a breath: When you
are over-scheduled it can make anyone’s patience wear thin. Take a
look at the schedule and make sure that there is time to stop running.
If there isn’t, ask yourself, what can I take out of my schedule to make
room for…me?
2.  Make the time to do something unique : It doesn’t need to be
anything fancy. Pull the shades and watch a movie. Bring out the game
boards and have a me game night
3.  Ask, what’s this all about?: When things get tense and tempers
run hot, ask yourself where the frustration is coming from this time.
Is it something that can be addressed? Sometimes we get frustrated
with each other when the real problem is that we need help with a
subject in school, we’re worried about work, or we’re involved in a
conflict with a friend. When we shine high beams on the real problem,
we can better cope.
4.  Apologize: When we say something we don’t mean, we need to be
accountable for it. That means both apologizing for it and taking steps
to make it better. We need to know that simply brushing
negativity under the rug is not the answer and only creates resentment
and impatience. Accountability, on the other hand, creates
understanding and patience.
5.  Acknowledge that it’s hard: The school year can get hectic.
Running around isn’t easy but sometimes, it’s necessary. Just allowing
everyone to admit that it’s stressful and challenging can do wonders
for dispersing the anxiety and frustration that leads to impatience
6.  Find out if this is what everyone wants: Sometimes we run
around because we are doing things that are necessary and desired.
Other times, we do it because “everyone else is” or “it’s what we’ve
always done.” Stop and ask, “is this what we want?” Sometimes you’ll
find that the impatience stems from a desire to pair things down,
simplify, and slow down the pace.

Today be calm, take a deep breathe and avoid the rush hour syndrome.

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Sunday, November 17, 2013

A Poem on idioms

Every Cloud has a silver lining:
I've looked up to the sky,
Counted all the clouds with a silver lining,
There are none
Not one single trace of silver in the grey.

Absence makes the heart grow fonder:
I left my heart alone,
My absence was present,
Yet...
Fonder, it did grow.

Actions speak louder than words:
I asked my actions,
In hushed tones,
How loudly they could speak.
I received no reply.

All's well,that ends well:
when my day ended well,
Nothing else seemed to be ...
All was not at ease.

All roads lead to Rome:
jumping into a taxi,
The driver asked me where to go.
Rome.
Roads don't carry overseas.

Bark is worse than one's bite :
I nipped my dog on the nose,
His bark was but a tip.
He jumped up and bit my own,
Which is now bleeding from its tip.

Beauty is only skin deep:
With this,I cannot disagree
My cat was so pretty,
But then,
I ripped off it's skin.

Beggars can't be choosers:
He begged for me to stay,
Then,chose someone else.
He was a beggar, he chose.
What's left to say?

Bird in the hand is worth two in the bush:
I found a bird,the other day.Picked him up,
In my hand he shall stay. But,oh,
I must have held too tight. In my hand, dead, he lay
There's two in the bush, still alive

Blood is thicker than water:
Have I blood?
No.
You cut me deep,
And my heart shot you ice.

The customer is always right:
At my lemonade stand,
He put one dollar in my hand.
I gave him back fifty cents,
He asked for fifty more...idiot
   
                                  Anonymous

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Saturday, November 16, 2013

Passwords!!! should it be shared in a relationship.

A Michigan man was sued by his ex- wife after he read her e-mails and learned of her extra- marital affairs with her ( allegedly abusive) ex- husband. Got that? The prosecution argued that he hacked into her e-mail, he claimed that he uses the computer all the time and that she kept her passwords in a little book next to the computer. Simple click-clack of the keys and he was in.

Harmless, right? I'm not sure. I don't care if the king/Queen wants my passwords. I also feel like he shoudn't have to ask. As they say, if you go looking for trouble, you are bound to find it. In my opinion you shoudn't need my passwords because there shouldn't be anything you need to verify.  You should be able to ask me a question and expect that I will answer you honestly.  If you don't trust my response then in my opinion that is the real issue.

Some people say your wife/husband or family should know your password so they can access your account incase of untimely death, to which my response is "like HELL they do". If I've passed away, I can think of absolutely no good that will come from you having access to my various accounts. Infact, if I unexpectedtedly pass away, just throw my laptop in the deepest part of the pacific ocean.

So what are your thoughts? Do you have access to your significant other's social media accounts? Do they have access to yours? Why or why not? Does not providing your password automatically mean you're hiding something?

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Thursday, November 14, 2013

Arguments ; is it a natural part of relationship?

Can you genuinely remove argument from a relationship or do you believe its a natural part of a healthy relationship? What happens if you find arguing detrimental but your partner doesn't?  what's the difference between an argument and a debate?

I've been in relationships were we never argued and l've been in relationships were we argued all the time. However, neither relationship was relatively better than the other. Sometimes the relationship I was in were we never argued might have benefited from us putting facts on the table even though it made us uncomfortable.
Conversely, in the relationship were we always argued,there were times when we would make petty arguments into grand stand,because we were trying to gain ground based on an important argument we lost days,weeks and sometimes months.

At times, we were immature and petty, but there were few times where we held back our feelings. obviously a balance is best, but biting your tongue to maintain peace is often no better than getting everything out of your system in the present in order to have peace in the future.

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Wednesday, November 13, 2013

Is being faithful hard?

Its typical for most of us to talk about relationship issues but i've come to realize that no single relationship topic is groundbreaking but there are stuffs we think about and don't like to discuss because the conversation is usually uncomfortable. One of these question is - is being faithful hard?

Have you asked your partner if they've always been faithful or their thoughts on cheating? For clarity l'm not only talking about physical encounters as most people will think. However, most infidelities don't leap to the physical point. So what about all those missteps you took on your way there.

What about all those indiscretion you ignored,overlooked, or somehow excused until the inevitable? You know the type: the extra Dm on twitter,the inappropriate 'Like' on a facebook picture you had no business viewing in the first place, or the "hey,how have you been?" message to an ex even though you are in a new relationship.Then there is reality; the extra flirtatious laugh,touch or suggestion you give or overlook from a person of interest.

You know your respective statuses so instead you entice each other playfully at first until that invisible line between flirtatiously innocent suggestions and outright deceitful actions blurs beyond recognitionn What then?

When I posed the question to my friends, most of them responded that being faithful is easy.  This is an interesting theory. So are those who are faithful relatively stronger than those who are not? If yes, what makes them so strong? Is it a strong moral resolve? code? ethics? or is once a cheated always a cheated true? I think it is important to identify the true cause in order to successfully address the issue rather than make blanket and dismissive statement.

Further,it may help to determine is it harder to be faithful than it is to cheat? Do men or women have it harder or easier? Is cheating more about avoiding situations that can lead to infidelity or having the strength to resist all opportunities real or imagined?

Saturday, November 9, 2013

Fashion Commandments

1. Thou shall reveal skin within reason ; whether you bare it all or leave some to the imagination. It can lessen your worth; so keep it cool, keep it classy. keep it simple. cover up.

2. Thou shall pay attention to detail: Accessories can make or break an outfit. killer heels,a statement necklace, red lipstick, those three items can turn the simplest look into Hollywood royalty.

3. Thou shall experiment : it's always good to discover what works for your body shape and height.

4. Thou shall not fall prey to trends: just because leopard print might be all the rage one season, doesn't mean a leopard print jumpsuit will necessarily be for you. keep it minimal.

5. Thou shall have a signature piece : it might be the high bun right at the crown of your head like bubu of lamlsigo or the flawless make up of Cindy Akpuru. Have a piece that defines you.

6. Thou shall have a consolidated look:just because gladiator sandals look good on their own,doesn't mean they won't channel ghetto fabolous when paired with harem pants. Examine the individual pieces, consider them together, accessorize and finally, evaluate the consolidated look in a full length mirror

7.Thou shall reinvent: creativity is the key to reinvention. just because a dress is a dress today doesn't mean it can't be a blouse or skirt tomorrow.  switch things up a bit.

8.Thou shall care for thine clothes : Read the labels. If the directions read dry clean, dry clean. If it reads hand wash, hand- wash. It really isn't rocket science.

9. Thou shall keep it simple : simplicity is the ultimate elegance.  Everything in moderation.

10. Thou shall always wear a smile : you don't need to be Julia Roberts to pull off a smile. Dressed up or down, suited for the occasion or not, a smile seals the deal with any outfit and always edges a confidence boost.

Now that you've got the scoop on the fashion commandments, strut forth and stun.

Bragging Rights

I resent religion. Those that practice it feel they are the scepter of God's judgment and makes christianity excrutiatingly difficult. its like a thin person going on a diet.

I believe Jesus came to abolish religion. I mean if religion is so great why has it started so many wars? build huge churches but forget to feed the poor, tell single moms God doesn't love them cos they got a divorce. Religion might preach grace but they ridicule God's people. Its like spraying perfume on a casket or would I say a behaviour modification like a long list of chores.

The church is an ocean were people come to draw the water of grace.Its not a museum for good people its an hospital for the broken. It means you don't have to hide your failures and sins cos it doesn't depend on you but him.

Christianity and religion are on opposite spectrum. One is the work of God the other is a man made invention, one is the cure the other the infection, one says do, the other says done. Christianity calls you a son, sets you free and makes you see whereas religion calls you a slave, keeps you in bondage and makes you blind.Religion is man searching for God,christianity is God searching for man.

I love the church, I love the bible and yes I believe in sin but the son of God never supported self righteousness not now not then.

So what's your take? religion or christianity?

What if's

"The baby you have is the baby you were destined to have, it was meant to be". That's what the adoption agency tells you. I like to think its true, but everything else in the world seems so completely random. What if one little thing I said or did made it all fall apart? what if I choose another life for myself or another person? what if I've been raised differently?  what if my mum has never been sick? what if, what if, what if?

Many times we find ourselves wishing for a second chance, longing to stop time, to start anew,or wondering what might have happened if we would have said yes instead of no. The problem with these daydreams is that life does not hand us a restart button.

To win at business or life, adversity has to be encountered,faced,fought and defeated.There is no other way.No options. You either beat it, or it beats you.Win,or you lose. Simple right? No.never.It's never black or white. Never Win or lose. Something always bleed over. Something good or bad,funny or sad and sometimes its a blend of both.

Some folks say they will prefer a life of "oh wells" to "what if's". The thing is live life to the fullest. Let go of the "what if's". Don't lick your wounds celebrate them, the scars you bear are signs of a competitor.

Your life is a gift accept it. No matter how screwed up or painful it seems to be.Somethings are gonna work out like they were destined to be.

Friday, November 8, 2013

Awesome Bible Wazobia

      I love Naija..apart from its rich culture we have lots of raw talent and individuals interested in taking this nation to the next level.
      Recently one of the telecommunications companies specifically mtn created a platform for nigerians to get creative by developing computer programs that will be beneficial to its citizens. So these dudes sent me a link which I think its a wow idea. They came up with the WaZoBia version of the Bible. Here you have the pidgin english, Igbo,Yoruba and hausa version of the bible.
      Yay!!! peeps hit the link below and start download.

http://www.biblewazobia.appspot.com
http://nextapps.mtnonline.com/app/details/id/32100