Sunday, December 25, 2016
Saturday, December 24, 2016
I played a lot as a kid and still do. This implies that I have a lot of scars. Scars from falls, sharp object and having scabies as a child. So when I got into the University and saw my colleaques with supple, clear and spot free skin I got insecured a bit. The self consciousness was top notch. I'd say to my friend or tailor "the dress should be a little bit longer, I need to cover this scar" " I can't wear this na, my skin is not that fine" "let the skirt cover my knee please I have scars there"
Thursday, December 22, 2016
I'm a big believer in forgiveness, and not just because I make a lot of mistakes. But because it's good for you and for your relationship if you're able to work things out and move past them. But there are some things you can't let slide in a relationship. Ever.
When you let certain things slide, it sends silent messages about the behavior you're willing to accept and the ways people are allowed to treat you. Letting bad behaviors slide isn't a way to be nice, or kind, or forgiving. It means you're not setting boundaries. It means you're taking crap from others for the sake of keeping the peace. It can also mean bigger things, like a lack of self-esteem, or poor communication skills, which are important to address as well.
Sunday, December 18, 2016
John Doe :Hello please is this bread sweet? (this unknown dude said to me as I settled to take my seat beside him on my way to Benin recently)
Me: I don't know
John Doe : you are forming you don't eat bread abi?
Me: I said I don't know. I have never bought bread in onitsha before.
John Doe : ok. I wanted to buy bread for my wife and mother in law.
So I started feeling guilty and suggested he gets some snacks from a fast food in Benin. But the dude insisted he wanted travellers bread. I said ok. So I asked if he was married because he looked so young then he replied
Friday, December 16, 2016
A couple of weeks ago, I was having an online conversation with a friend about “the list”. You know, the list almost every teenage/young adult girl makes about things her future husband needs to be—tall, a tongue talking, demon chasing Christian, loves kids, financially stable , humorous, will take her out for ice cream etc. Two things i recall from my list is that future hubby should be
1. Incurably romantic
2. Goes after me with the right trappings in place. Lolz
Tuesday, December 13, 2016
I am a Christian, an actor in Hollywood, an African American woman, beach dweller, and dog owner, if that matters. I really loved the movie War Room, and not just because it has turned me into a scripture copying, 24/7 praying fool these days, and not because it’s good “for a Christian movie,” or because it is box office gold, which really means something “in this town,” but for a few other reasons that surprised even jaded old me! - Karen Bankhead
Thursday, November 24, 2016
I can’t remember when I first met Chibuikem Emmanuel and for someone like me who rarely forgets such details, it’s weird. He said I confessed he was my” favourite person of all time” by our second meeting and again this is weird. But I’m very sure I made a very lousy first impression. Whenever I am meeting someone for the first time, I keep quiet, watch and listen then loosen up after a couple of meetings. Even though our first few meetings is still blurry, I remember he loved wearing white, smelled nice, wore really cool sandals with fingers trimmed and neat.
Tuesday, November 22, 2016
Focos music first lady, UK, releases this thought provoking single about life and what it takes to be yourself in a world where everyone else is trying to be what they weren't created to be. It's the first single off her forthcoming EP and she features label mate and rapper, Bombc on it. The song was produced by Synx, mixed and mastered by ZimboCrix.
Monday, November 21, 2016
So I saw this hilarious post on my timeline on facebook and thought I should share. Read...
Last time I attended a burial, I was mourning, not the dead, but the senseless wastefulness I witnessed.
The crowd of villagers, the different dancing troupes, the live band groups, the priests and pastors with their fancy white gowns... Festivity was in the air.
Nope, this wasn't the burial of a wealthy man. He was just an ordinary villager who couldn't send any of his kids to school, living in a very old dilapidating structure of a house.
Friday, November 18, 2016
Before I die, I would like to grow fully grey haired and be that friendly, wise, old man with that warm smile, that a young man thinking of leaving his reckless life can safely talk to without fear.
Before I die, I would like to have and watch my toddler do something silly and laugh at it, record the incident, put it on YouTube and share that simple happiness with millions of views.
Before I die, I'd like to catch an unusual inspiration and write a book; not a motivational book per se, a simple book about being human that people of all cultures can read, see themselves in and laugh.
Before I die, I want to be old and hold hands with another old woman, who'd be old, gracious and dignified as CICELY TYSON .
Sunday, November 6, 2016
For the men in our society, sex has long been a badge of honor—the exact opposite of the Scarlet Letter handed out to the girls who do the same. The phrase, “she made a man out of him,” tells you everything you need to know about how ingrained and rewarded losing your virginity is in the world of men.
THE TRUTH IS, NOTHING IN MY LIFE HAS BROUGHT MORE RIDICULE AND HARASSMENT THAN MY DECISION TO WAIT TO HAVE SEX UNTIL MARRIAGE.
Whenever the topic comes up, I am almost always met with one of four reactions:
Shock: “WHAT?! YOU ARE CRAZY!”
Attempted Humiliation: “Oh, so you could never get anyone to sleep with you? It’s okay bro.”
Bewilderment: “What, are you amish or something?”
Doubt: This is the most charming reaction, “so you’re gay?”
The truth is, they’re right, there are millions of reasons not to wait for marriage.
Friday, October 28, 2016
Whoever became happy by pleasing everyone? If you did, send me an email I need to be your protégé asap.
What will it cost you to say no if that would make you happy?
I’ve always been a YES person until recently when I decided to take charge of my life and put a stop to it. I think I usually have a mini panic attack and pangs of guilt whenever I say No to friends or decline a request. But guess what? I was unhappy, depressed and angry all the time.
Tuesday, October 25, 2016
Saturday, October 15, 2016
Tim miller writes:'my nine- year old daughter jennifer was looking forward to our family holiday. But she became ill, and a long anticipated day at sea world was replaced by an all- night series of CT scans, x- rays and blood test at the hospital. As morning approached the doctor told my exhausted little girl that she would need to have one more test, a lumbar puncture.
Wednesday, October 5, 2016
The female hostel is an interesting place to live. When I got admission, my dad wanted me to live off campus but I insisted I stay in the hostel because I wanted to have an experience of what life in the gosel was like. He thought that was a considerable idea, but I never told him the real reason I made that decision was because I wanted to make up for me not being a boarder in secondary school. Adjusting to life was easy for me but I would never forget some profound incidents.
Saturday, October 1, 2016
We've now crossed the 58 million mark for aborted babies in America. Hitler exterminated 6 million Jews. Unless there's a turnaround soon, we will have exterminated 10 times that number with aborted babies.-charisma news
Meet Dynah Carey, a bright, attractive young woman whose near-perfect world collapses when she is raped by a stranger in a park.
Thursday, September 29, 2016
Saturday, September 24, 2016
I had a crush!
This wasn’t the first time, others had come and gone and we didn’t have any special contact, but this was different because we had contact, made calls, kept texting each other back to back and couldn’t wait to see each other the next day. It didn’t take long before I realized he is a diapered man so the crush didn’t survive.
Friday, September 23, 2016
Thursday, September 22, 2016
Have you ever experienced the back and forth change of setting physical boundaries in a dating relationship?
Maybe we should stop kissing for a while. It’s just too tempting to want to go further. Or let’s only kiss while standing. No kissing on the couch or leaning against the wall… well, anything is fine as long as we aren’t in a bed. Okay, it is settled — we can kiss anywhere, but not in your bed.
Days later… never mind, we shouldn’t kiss at all…just cuddling.
But cuddling is making it tempting to kiss you. So what if we kiss, but short kisses. Standing only. What if we just stop hanging out after a certain time? Let’s make a curfew. That will work.
Wednesday, September 21, 2016
Tuesday, September 20, 2016
Sunday, September 18, 2016
So, if you're new to me and my blog, it might be news to you that I am the eldest of three children.
As the big sister, I don't take the responsibility of setting a good example lightly. I just know that at least a one of them will always follow every move I make. I try to set a good example in my taste of things, including clothes, music, movies, blogs, and books.
I really love books.
Monday, September 12, 2016
Marriage is not an achievement. There is so much more to life than being someone’s wife. Get married please, but don’t be pressured into it. I don’t know how many of you single girls are under pressure to get married but I am. Pressure from family, friends and people who just can’t mind their business. The pressure is so intense right now I feel like going to husband market – if there is any such thing- to buy myself some breathing space. Give me a break you people.- Linda Ikeji.
Saturday, September 10, 2016
The devil has many descriptions in the bible as per his nature and functions such as Liar, Deceiver, Serpent, Accuser, our Adversary, Illusionist etc. Any little observation of his work in our times prove that he is yet unchanged. None of that is news. However he is not human and so for him to function here on earth, he works through human beings. That also isn't news. It is clear that the devil has a clear agenda against the church. He hates Christianity. He hates christians. He hates preachers. He'll do everything to undermine them. He'll engage every trick and device and his disposal to hinder and undo them. Basically he has foot soldiers who readily carry out this work. In their eyes everything about the church is evil and criticism worthy. This is their standard thought process. Almost every day on Facebook I see this being portrayed. This also isn't news.
The baffling reality is that some christians have volunteered themselves to assist him. They seem to have reduced his workload and they are so willing to carry out his mandate here on earth. Almost every day on social media I keep getting stung by what I see from professing christians. People who seem to have no restraint whatsoever in what they can say about anyone.
Friday, September 9, 2016
Tuesday, September 6, 2016
Friday, September 2, 2016
My 'What He Must Be' list has changed more than twice since I first drafted it at age 18. I would love to get married someday. Set up a little house with fluffy curtains and vintage bakeware a and a bunch of toe-headed kids running around. I'm not too picky on location as long as the city isn't "too crowded", traffic free and less cranky people.
Sometimes I get kind of caught up in my daydreams, and prayer is the one thing that always helps me get my feet back on the ground to focus on the here and now.